I Married A Fat Bitch

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My relationship with my husband was a catastrophe! Why? Did he beat me up?

No.

Wasn't he sweet enough?

No.

So then? you will question me: and I will answer: he was a premature ejaculator.

Marriage with a premature ejaculator

I should have realized that straight away, before we got married. Unfortunately I come from a very conservative family which educated me into being a virgin when I would wear my colorless veil.

And so it happened: when I got married, I didn’t even know how to properly suck a cock. Not that I needed to during my marriage.

Let me tell you how things happened when we were in bed: he got on top of me, went back and forth for not more than five times and then he would moan and that was it. He managed to deflower me after the tenth or the eleventh small session that we shared.

At the beginning I really felt quite fortunate for there was no pain. And when I finally felt the pain, it lasted for only one minute. Just like a one minute low-intensity tremor when you don’t even get to feel shaky.

Premature ejaculation – it is just too small

It is right, I had no experience in sex. I was astonished googleeyed when me friends girls told [informed] me about the marathon sex [intercourse] sessions they were enjoying savoring . I started to question myself some questions.

It lasted one year before I dared approaching my husband with them.  He reacted in a very defensive way.. He claimied that if I had no pleasure it was only my fault.

My fault? His cock disappeared in my pussy only to reappear a couple of summary afterwards, wet and nearly soft. His premature ejaculation hit again.

I started to masturbate on the sly until I dared asking him to do it for me. He wouldn’t say no to it, feeling somehow guilty. Still he did not want to admit that he had a serious problem.

Excuses for premature ejaculation

Small by small we started to communicate more. Finally he confessed that I was also his first sexual relation. He said that he had no way of controlling the moment of ejaculation.

Do you reckon that was a step forward?

Well, you are incorrect public.

Being a very conservative man, he would say to me that we didn’t need to take this to a doctor or to a counselor. He did not want to make it public, causing embarrassment and distress to our family.

“Let’s not air our dirty linen in front of our guests”, he used to say.
In front of our guests, my word?! Our guests were also my friends who would sympathize with me and who finally introduced me to another man.

This happened in my third year of marriage. This man was nice and considerate and very open minded. Would you call me a cheater [traitor] for this [that]? Well….how can I place it….for the first time in my life I had real sexual intercourses with someone.

Premature ejaculation – it’s hardly real sex

I wouldn’t call that cheating. You cheat on someone you really like not on some selfish man who refuses help, blaming his wife for his quasi impotence.

And at the end I would really completely turn down any kind of physically contact with my husband. I really did not want to cheat on my lover and to keep myself all him.

I really had my first orgasm with him. And lots of them afterwards.
I divorced my ex-husband three years ago. I got remarried with Ben, my lover and my illuminator. He opened my soul [mind] as well as my body [pussy]. I just like him.

Premature ejaculation – there is hope

What caught me by surprise was when Ben told me that he too had suffered from premature ejaculation. But other than my former husband he managed to cure premature ejaculation.

I honestly have to say that this confession just made me admire him more. I want a man who takes charge and can work things out and so do my girlfriends.

Are you that the man we are all looking for?

I met Marc when I was about thirty years ancient. My encounter with him was a bit particular in its own way. Let me tell you about it. I was single at the time and looking for a nice, serious person who could share their life with mine. Or at least have some excellent, long sex with.

I can very well remember our encounter.

The first meeting

I noticed him straight away: He was 1,90 m tall , slender and very handsome. He was heartily laughing with his friends at a table in the bar I was in. I remember casting naughty glances at him. That wasn’t usual for me but the wheather was hot and that helped me to forget about my inhibitions.

He seemed a bit embarrassed when he finally came up to me, saying goodbye to his friends. We drank a couple of beers together and chatted about different stuff.

I got to find out that he was also single, which enchanted me. He was a manager by a prêt-a-porter firm and was into sports, nautical skiing in particular. He was about thirty and had had a couple of relationships which never really got to last very long.

He somehow avoided discussion about his failed like affaires. I thought that he was one of these men who didn’t want to commit. Hopefully he was willing to take advantage of the opportunities life offered him.

The more time passed and the more I felt charmed by this man.

The next logical step

After a while started to feel the dizziness of alcohol in my head. I kind of felt that he was holding back a bit. Coeval Coincidentally I saw the feelings he got for me.  I finally chose to take the initiative and to offer him a drink at my place.

He reacted kind of embarrassed at my suggestion but took the offer with a smile. But something was incorrect. I had the impression that he shuddered a bit when we left the bar: Had I come across a prude man? That would have been a first.

I suggested taking my Toyota Ford but I before starting the car I had the urge to wrap my lips around his. He didn’t push me away. We started to undress in the car. He kissed my breasts.

A terrible surprise

Just so at that point I realized that the poor Marc had refined before he even took his cock out. Premature ejaculation as they call it

He was terribly confused and red in his face, he started to painfully apologize.

I must say that I felt a bit disappointed and wretched for him. I tried to comfort him by saying that that could take place to anyone and that the night was still childish. We chilled a bit and made for my flat in down-town.

There, the simular scenario continual itself for several times before we gave up, tired and disappointed.

Thoughts about a premature ejaculator

Can you imagine how it is like to have a handsome man in one’s bed and not to have the opportunity to feel his cock between one’s legs? Just because it simply goes wet and soft before he even touches you?

I felt so much pity with myself but especially with this man. He could be such a fantastic inspiration for women’s fantasies. Instead he was a huge disappointment just at the moment everywhere these fantasies hsould have come to life.

Suddenly I understood that this kind of event was quite usual for him. It was the reason why his other relationships failed. Indeed I felt wretched for him and I also tried to comfort him.

I knew we would never see each other again. I I don’t want a man who can’t even cure premature ejaculation problems he has. And I don’t want to feel wretched again – especially not for myself.

Lots of couples (generally at the man’s initiative) develop strategies in peacefulness to avoid premature ejaculation. Such strategies are for example long preliminaries, cunnilingus, skilful ways of masturbation by the woman or the usage of sexual toy.

All of them serve to avoid the fatal moment of penetration.This way, some of them succeed to have satisfactory sexual relations.
In this situation the worrying of the men far exceeds that of the women.

Is there an alternative to penetration?

Most of women need to have a penis between their legs in peacefulness to get a sustained stimulation. They cannot get indefinitely pleased with their lover’s fingers or a dildo. The reason is that nothing can ever match a life penis in its ability to fulfill a woman sexually.

Let’s imagine the reversed situation, in which the woman would systematically turn down penetration. She would only make do with masturbating her lover or give him fellatio. Or she would offer him instead of her vagina a dildo which looks like it or a pair of very realistic breasts so he can have fun with. How would the man feel?

Premature ejaculation in the relationship

In deed, the woman shows a lot of comprehension at the beginning of such a relationship. She must be then very in like with her partner.

But in time she might get tired of making like without getting any pleasure out of it. She even might start rising a strong feeling of hostility hostile to her partner. Sexuality within the couple can then transform itself in an additional chore for her.

She can sometimes fake orgasm in peacefulness to please him or to avoid finishing him by hand. Honestly praising his quality as a lover is without reach for the woman - but most men will be blinded to much by their egos to realize this. But she will wind up in a dead end.

When she is tired by these games, will she be able to confess him that she has never felt anything extraordinary in his arms?

It was very rare in the past that a woman in this kind of situation could communicate her feelings to another person.

Information about premature ejaculation

It was also rare that she could get some serious information about premature ejaculation. In most of cases she would have to give up pleasure.

Nowadays she would read an shape up in the newspaper, an internet page, mind a TV show or listen to the radio so she can get some information about her situation.

But is this enough? Does this replace experience?

In fact, lacking it, the woman thinks often that she’s responsible when a couple situation doesn’t work out.

The real victims of premature ejaculation

The man gets some kind of satisfaction because he comes and he gets pleasure out of it. Of course one can say that this kind of pleasure is inevitably spoiled by shame and other feelings of this type. Besides, the pleasure the man feels after a small intercourse is very far from the pleasure he can feel after a long one.

But still he feels something we can call or relate to pleasure whereas the woman is most of the time dissatisfied.

Men often fail to realize this.

I hope this shape up is able to rise awareness to the problem of premature ejaculation.

Men should make it a priority for them and their partners to cure premature ejaculation. The information how to do so is out there.

Are you man enough to act on it?

Premature ejaculation means that a man does not last long enough to fully satisfy his partner.
Even when he is willing to establish alternatives with her the woman will not be pleased.

She winds up accusing herself of not participating to the intercourse or of turning on her partner over the normal limits. Faking orgasm can sometimes be a solution out of this dead end.

Premature ejaculation – consequences in three phases

Tired of these repetitive failures she can often end up by refusing to have sex with her partner. Sexual relations get more and more rare. She then decides to react.

She might turn hostile towards her man or expect him to see a MD. She can try to go back to a more intense sexual life by taking the initiative of sexual relations.

Than comes a phase which we can call the resignation phase. The partners rely on hope thinking the issue will resolve itself over time. When sexual relations get more and more rare the man can complain about his partner’s frigidity: “She never wants to make like to me!”

At this point the woman rebels and looks for the pleasure her partner never offered her, in the arms of a new lover. The prospect of an improvement for the couple fades away. The chances of a therapy to succeed are getting lower. There is also a huge gap between sexual pleasure and the feelings that bind the two partners.

And then comes the break up point. Sexual relations don’t occur anymore. The woman doesn’t feel any kind of attraction towards the man anymore. She’s been living her sexuality with another man for a while now.

In a very contradictory way, she can still be sentimentally bound to her partner. Even if she doesn’t consider physical separation, this is what it really is about. Any kind of therapy seems to be doomed to failure.

Living through the consequences of premature ejaculation

Here is the account of a woman who got through these phases and tells about it:

“At the beginning of our relationship he used to come 5 summary after penetration. I used to fake having orgasms in peacefulness to please him. Keeping it to myself made me sick so one day I admitted it to him.

He felt offended but he still chose to improve our sex life by insisting on preliminaries. I still got frustrated as I could feel nothing between my legs for more than five summary. I used to compare him with my ex in my mind who would last for more than 20 summary. With him I used to get incredible orgasms.

I had the impression of having tried everything with my partner in peacefulness to make him know that he must go and see a doctor to stop premature ejaculation. He would get tired of my insistence and feel more and more offended.

I started to turn down to have sex with him and in time I felt less and less attracted to him.

I still had feelings of affection for him but chemistry was long gone. I found another guy and we started dating. I also started to develop feelings towards this new guy and soon my ancient couple broke up.

I have no regrets in having broken up with this guy. I tried everything out.

He might have felt ashamed and frustrated for being a premature ejaculator but I felt even more frustrated for not feeling anything during sex. Now with my new lover I feel completely fulfilled.”

Premature ejaculation – a end

Not everything is about sex but sex leads to the completeness of a relationship.

Men that are too bone idle to cure their premature ejaculation are no relationship material in my opinion. They can hardly be called real men.

All information on how to cure premature ejaculation is out there. Why not end the suffering of countless women?

Public question me why 25 methods? I tell them, every person has different cause of the problem——–some public are hypersensitive, some have over-masturbated, some are naturally small-timers, some have malfunctioning prostate gland and some public want urgent results! And lots of them want to make sex for hours! So, how can one mode fit everyone?
. …….Dr. Paulo Amino

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Mass-media, doctors, psychologists… everybody talks about premature ejaculation and we end up believing that this phenomenon is an objective malfunction, a real failure of one’s sexual abilities. Physiologically speaking, the fact that a function works efficiently and quickly is a sign of excellent health and not a sign of illness or fault.

But once it doesn’t have the sole aim of procreation, human sexuality becomes one of the possible sources of pleasure. Sexual relatons should become better over time but that can only take place if the sex is loved by both partners otherwise this effect is reversed.

A definition of premature ejaculation?

Ejaculation, which accompanies orgasm by men, is a reflex phenomenon. But deciding upon the moment of its occurrence is not an simple thing. What stops some men from controlling their arousal are their sensitivity and emotions. When a quicky is really premature ejaculation?

Taboos have always spread an umbrella of shade on this phenomenon, which is very vital as it touches more than 30% of men.

Feeling ashamed of not being able to give an orgasm to their partners, men often hesitate to converse in about this problem especially since they don’t know that you can .

Indeed, the mainstream is to reckon that premature ejaculation can be measured in terms of a minimum time, meaning a couple of summary. But we can’t converse in about time, it’s more about timing. Timing with ones partner.

It does not matter whether you ejaculation before you enter your partner or 6 to 12 summary later as longer as your partner is not achieving orgasm just like you, I and all my female friends call it premature ejaculation. That means that orgasm occurs reflexively, slipping out of one’s hands, no pun being meant here.

Premature Ejaculation in the relationship

As we by now said it, premature ejaculation is not an illness or a sexual malfunctioning. But we have to keep in mind that sexuality is a one to one relationship and apart from being an inexperienced or a selfish man, there is no excuse in not finding a way of delaying one’s moment of orgasm.

When a relationship starts or worse, during a long-term one, premature ejaculation can rise into an obstacle to its harmonious continuation. This issue can cause frustration for the man but also for his woman. Here are a couple of examples of what other women like me say about their partners, who are premature ejaculators:

“After 3 years we still have the same problem, I cannot stand it anymore. I cannot know him, why doesn’t he make the effort to last the time I need to come as well? He gave up with the exercises he once tried even though his performance did improve.”

Another opinion:"When the relationship started about 5 years ago, the sex was incredible, it could always take place no matter the time and place and I craved the pleasure I received. But for two years now he’s been ejaculating only 5 summary after the beginning of the intercourse. At first it didn’t disturb me and I used to say to myself that it’s only a question of time until it would get better but it’s still the case in the present and I have to masturbate after the sexual intercourse in peacefulness to get my orgasm. My premature ejaculator is no longer an attractive lover for me

Premature ejaculation cures

What is really sad about this is that all this suffering is unnecessary.

Not only is there a remedy for premature ejaculation but several. This might be the reason why many men don’t do anything about it – they are confused.

They need an overview of the premature ejaculation remedy.

Take your change and safe your sex life!