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My relationship with my husband was a catastrophe! Why? Did he beat me up?

No.

Wasn't he sweet enough?

No.

So then? you will ask me: and I will answer: he was a premature ejaculator.

Marriage with a premature ejaculator

I should have realized that right away, before we got married. Unfortunately I come from a very conservative family which educated me into being a virgin when I would wear my white veil.

And so it happened: when I got married, I didn’t even know how to properly suck a cock. Not that I needed to during my marriage.

Let me tell you how things happened when we were in bed: he got on top of me, went back and forth for not more than five times and then he would moan and that was it. He managed to deflower me after the tenth or the eleventh short session that we shared.

At the beginning I actually felt quite lucky for there was no pain. And when I finally felt the pain, it lasted for only one minute. Just like a one minute low-intensity earthquake when you don’t even get to feel shaky.

Premature ejaculation – it is just too short

It is true, I had no experience in sex. I was astonished googleeyed when me friends girls told [informed] me about the marathon sex [intercourse] sessions they were enjoying savoring . I started to ask myself some questions.

It lasted one year before I dared approaching my husband with them.  He reacted in a very defensive way.. He claimied that if I had no pleasure it was only my fault.

My fault? His cock disappeared in my pussy only to reappear a couple of minutes afterwards, wet and almost soft. His premature ejaculation hit again.

I started to masturbate on the sly until I dared asking him to do it for me. He wouldn’t say no to it, feeling somehow guilty. Still he did not want to admit that he had a serious problem.

Excuses for premature ejaculation

Little by little we started to communicate more. Finally he confessed that I was also his first sexual relation. He said that he had no way of controlling the moment of ejaculation.

Do you think that was a step forward?

Well, you are wrong people.

Being a very conservative man, he would say to me that we didn’t need to take this to a doctor or to a counselor. He did not want to make it public, causing embarrassment and distress to our family.

“Let’s not air our dirty linen in front of our guests”, he used to say.
In front of our guests, my word?! Our guests were also my friends who would sympathize with me and who finally introduced me to another man.

This happened in my third year of marriage. This man was nice and considerate and very open minded. Would you call me a cheater [traitor] for this [that]? Well….how can I put it….for the first time in my life I had real sexual intercourses with someone.

Premature ejaculation – it’s hardly real sex

I wouldn’t call that cheating. You cheat on someone you really love not on some selfish man who refuses help, blaming his wife for his quasi impotence.

And at the end I would actually completely refuse any kind of physically contact with my husband. I actually did not want to cheat on my lover and to keep myself all him.

I actually had my first orgasm with him. And loads of them afterwards.
I divorced my ex-husband three years ago. I got remarried with Ben, my lover and my illuminator. He opened my soul [mind] as well as my body [pussy]. I just love him.

Premature ejaculation – there is hope

What caught me by surprise was when Ben told me that he too had suffered from premature ejaculation. But other than my former husband he managed to cure premature ejaculation.

I honestly have to say that this confession just made me admire him more. I want a man who takes charge and can work things out and so do my girlfriends.

Are you that the man we are all looking for?

I met Marc when I was about thirty years old. My encounter with him was a bit particular in its own way. Let me tell you about it. I was single at the time and looking for a nice, serious person who could share their life with mine. Or at least have some good, long sex with.

I can very well remember our encounter.

The first meeting

I noticed him right away: He was 1,90 m tall , slender and very handsome. He was heartily laughing with his friends at a table in the bar I was in. I remember casting naughty glances at him. That wasn’t usual for me but the wheather was hot and that helped me to forget about my inhibitions.

He seemed a bit embarrassed when he finally came up to me, saying goodbye to his friends. We drank a couple of beers together and chatted about different stuff.

I got to find out that he was also single, which enchanted me. He was a manager by a prêt-a-porter firm and was into sports, nautical skiing in particular. He was about thirty and had had a couple of relationships which never really got to last very long.

He somehow avoided talking about his failed love affaires. I thought that he was one of these men who didn’t want to commit. Hopefully he was willing to take advantage of the opportunities life offered him.

The more time passed and the more I felt charmed by this man.

The next logical step

After a while began to feel the dizziness of alcohol in my head. I kind of felt that he was holding back a bit. Coeval Coincidentally I saw the feelings he got for me.  I finally decided to take the initiative and to offer him a drink at my place.

He reacted kind of embarrassed at my suggestion but took the offer with a smile. But something was wrong. I had the impression that he shuddered a bit when we left the bar: Had I come across a prude man? That would have been a first.

I suggested taking my Toyota Ford but I before starting the car I had the urge to wrap my lips around his. He didn’t push me away. We started to undress in the car. He kissed my breasts.

A bad surprise

Exactly at that point I realized that the poor Marc had finished before he even took his cock out. Premature ejaculation as they call it

He was terribly confused and red in his face, he began to painfully apologize.

I must say that I felt a bit disappointed and sorry for him. I tried to comfort him by saying that that could happen to anyone and that the night was still young. We chilled a bit and made for my flat in down-town.

There, the simular scenario repeated itself for several times before we gave up, tired and disappointed.

Thoughts about a premature ejaculator

Can you imagine how it is like to have a handsome man in one’s bed and not to have the chance to feel his cock between one’s legs? Just because it simply goes wet and soft before he even touches you?

I felt so much pity with myself but especially with this man. He could be such a great inspiration for women’s fantasies. Instead he was a big disappointment just at the moment where these fantasies hsould have come to life.

Suddenly I understood that this kind of event was quite usual for him. It was the reason why his other relationships failed. Indeed I felt sorry for him and I also tried to comfort him.

I knew we would never see each other again. I I don’t want a man who can’t even cure premature ejaculation problems he has. And I don’t want to feel sorry again – especially not for myself.

Facts Every Man Suffering From Premature Ejaculation Must Know

The first thing you should know about premature ejaculation is that it’s not a health problem, disease or disability – there’s no physical problem that’s causing it. There are four reasons why you may be suffering from premature ejaculation.

1. One reason could be, that as an adolescent, the masturbation habits you developed may have led to this.  Typically adolescents masturbate with the intention of reaching orgasm quickly, thus premature ejaculation has been “grooved” into your system. That’s why you haven’t been able to shake it.

2. Now for the second reason, let’s face it we’d all like to be able to make love for hours.  There’s one problem though.  The body sees sex as a means to reproduce.  That said your body is going to try and reproduce as fast and efficiently as possible. This is why premature ejaculation mostly affects men in their teens and 20’s – they tend to be healthier and produce more hormones thus they have a more efficient reproductive system. Put simply, ejaculating quickly means your reproductive system is working as nature intended – survival of the species.  The catch is, now you have to learn how to control it.

3. The third cause of premature ejaculation is the inability to handle and control intense arousal and sexual stimulation.  Once arousal reaches a certain tipping point it becomes almost impossible to hold back ejaculation.  But when you can tweak a few mental and physical factors you can push your tipping point farther and farther so you last longer and longer. By following some of my techniques you will be able to train your body to build a tolerance to even the most titillating sex sessions and increase your staying power – dramatically.

4. Lack of knowledge about the body and how the ejaculation process works. Once you have a better understanding of how your body works you’ll have ten times more control over ejaculation.

How Do Get This Problem Fixed – for Good?

This entails a two-pronged process that safely “re-wires” your ejaculatory reflex and ejaculation response.

On one prong, we focus on mental control. Various emotions, thoughts, and perceptions are proven to cause premature ejaculation. What you bring to the table mentally will be a determining factor of how long you last.  

On the second prong, we focus on the physical aspects of ejaculation control. There are many things you should and SHOULDN’T do physically if you want to control and delay ejaculation.

The combination of fighting this problem from both the mental and physical level is what makes my program so incredibly effective. I guarantee a dramatic increase in your staying power if you follow my step by step system.

Mental Control

The first step to gaining control over your ejaculation is to develop control over the mental triggers of premature ejaculation.

It might surprise you how what’s going on in your head radically affects your sex life and when you ejaculate.  While fixing this part of the problem may sound easy, it’s not if you don’t understand some very important factors. The good news is I’m going to show you some powerful techniques that will give you total control over these various mental triggers that are sabotaging your sex life.

Natural chemicals released in the body contribute to premature ejaculation. This is because certain chemical reactions in the body cause emotions and affect your mental state. These reactions put your body and mind in a state where it feels it needs to ejaculate (a survival of the species reaction).  Two of those key chemicals are Dopamine and Serotonin and both play an important role in your ejaculatory reflex.

It’s important to understand that when you have high levels of Dopamine and Testosterone (more common in younger males) this contributes to premature ejaculation.

On the flip side, high levels of Serotonin do the opposite.  In fact Serotonin is proven to help delay the ejaculation process. But as you can imagine, maintaining a low Dopamine level while maintaining a high Serotonin level during sex is tricky. And there’s a good reason for that.

Dopamine flows abundantly during sex because it’s a hormone associated with excitement while Serotonin does the opposite because of sexual anxiety and other emotions.  So in part, what I’m going to do is give you a key to help boost your Serotonin levels.  (By the way, this is perfectly safe to do just as lifting weights and experiencing more testosterone from doing so is safe.)

Developing the mindset that will delay ejaculation and give you better control isn’t the hardest thing to achieve, but it’s a blind path that will only worsen if you don’t understand some key principles and information.

It’s important to understand how the mind works in regards to the ejaculatory reflex.  Chances are if you have premature ejaculation, you are unknowingly doing things mentally that are contributing to your case.

Physical Control

This brings me to the second prong, which is just as important and involves some key aspects on the physical level that’ll totally turn the tables on this problem.  Here’s how it works.

The ejaculatory reflex is like any other reflex or body response.  It can be trained, altered, and controlled.  Right now your ejaculatory reflex and Glans (the Penis head) can only handle so much stimulation before it triggers your ejaculation response. There’s nothing wrong with you, it’s just the way your body is currently wired.  All you need to do is “re-wire” this process by following the precise plan I’ve laid out for you.

This is possible by performing various techniques, changing some of your habits, and applying some important principles that can literally program your ejaculatory reflex to be less hyper active so it can endure prolonged stimulation. This is VERY IMPORTANT for long term success, and is where every other program or product miserably fails.

This will also involve various breathing techniques that calm arousal and delay the ejaculation process, which is super effective just by itself.

In addition to reprogramming your ejaculation reflex with these techniques, you need to learn which muscles cause premature ejaculation and which muscles can be used to control ejaculation. Combining these methods will give you total control.

In your pelvic region, various muscles come into play during the ejaculation process.  It’s not so much exercising them like many people say, but rather knowing how to use them correctly when controlling ejaculation. These muscles can be used both to control ejaculation and to delay it. It’s important to understand that these same muscles can also CAUSE premature ejaculation. This is why it’s absolutely critical that you know exactly what you’re doing when using (and not using) these muscles, or your problem could get worse.

Some purported experts are flat out teaching the wrong information about these muscles, many are even teaching information about the wrong muscles! This could spell big problems in your efforts to overcome premature ejaculation.

The physical aspect of ejaculation control also involves various breathing techniques that calm arousal and delay the ejaculation process, which is super effective just by itself.

approach and techniques for curing premature ejaculation are so amazingly effective that you’ll eventually gain total control over your ejaculation response. And when this happens, it’ll be like you’re a new man.

Sneak-Peak of What You’ll Discover Inside :

• Absolutely everything you need to know about premature ejaculation, so that you can end it for good and last as long as you need to
• As of now your ejaculatory reflex can only handle so much stimulation before ejaculating….learn how to “re-wire” this reflex so you can endure long lasting hard stimulation without getting the disappointing urge to ejaculate
• A 5-step plan that confronts PE from every angle….there is no way premature ejaculation can win after learning everything I’m about to show you
• The astonishing facts about developing your mental game and what’s going on in your head that will make or break your performance
• The 4 stages of arousal and how they affect when you ejaculate
• The shocking truth about whether you should or shouldn’t be using “visualization” during the sex act … it’s not what you think!
• How to ride the wave of arousal for long periods of time without blowing early
• How foreplay can contribute to premature ejaculation and what you can do about it to actually put it to your advantage
• A sexual technique that’ll drive her crazy with pleasure that at the same time raises your Serotonin levels and gives you more lasting power and confidence
• How to control heart rate so you can put the brakes on premature ejaculation
• A whole bunch of ‘emergency’ and ‘will work tonight’ techniques
• An amazing way to naturally and safely control both of your Dopamine and Serotonin levels at the same time, allowing you to naturally control hormones that regulate when you ejaculate
• How to naturally boost Serotonin levels so you can make love with confidence while experiencing the inhibitory (delaying) effect that Serotonin has on the ejaculatory reflex
• A mistake most men make with their breathing during sex that sabotages their ability to last long – chances are, you’re doing it too – here’s what to do about it
• The secrets on how to have sex without having to stop so often to delay ejaculation
• A 4-step breathing technique you can use immediately to delay ejaculation
• The truth about the perineal muscles and how they can be used to help with premature ejaculation
• How to correctly train these muscles which will make a huge difference in your ability to delay the ejaculatory reflex…and how to hold it in when the time comes
• Why exercising the wrong muscle will have no effect on helping your problem – most books get it dead wrong – mine tells you the truth once and for all
• A simple exercise you should practice 2 to 4 times a week to attain total ejaculation control
• A fail-safe trick that you can use when you’re about to ejaculate but want to stop it before it happens
• The astonishing technique that’ll strengthen your erection even after you ejaculate so you can get back in the game with no down time
• 8 things you must absolutely know about whenever you masturbate with the intention of re-training your ejaculatory reflex – otherwise you’ll sabotage your efforts
• 3 masturbation techniques that re-wire and train your ejaculatory reflex to handle prolonged stimulation and intense sexual arousal so you have more staying power
• 4 sex techniques that improve your lasting power dramatically
• Discover which sex positions make you ejaculate faster and which ones delay
• How to train the Glans (head of the penis) to handle intense stimulation…the hypersensitivity of the Glans is a major cause of
• Learn a modern approach to the same secret techniques coveted by ancient sex practitioners
• The 4 types of male multiple orgasms, and how to have them so that you can last as long as you want (yes, you read that right)
• The truth about male multiple orgasms and how they are to be used correctly to help with premature ejaculation
• 10 clever tricks for instantly lasting longer in the bedroom – use them tonight!

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Lots of couples (generally at the man’s initiative) develop strategies in order to avoid premature ejaculation. Such strategies are for example long preliminaries, cunnilingus, skilful ways of masturbation by the woman or the usage of sexual toy.

All of them serve to avoid the fatal moment of penetration.This way, some of them succeed to have satisfactory sexual relations.
In this situation the worrying of the men far exceeds that of the women.

Is there an alternative to penetration?

Most of women need to have a penis between their legs in order to get a sustained stimulation. They cannot get indefinitely satisfied with their lover’s fingers or a dildo. The reason is that nothing can ever match a life penis in its ability to fulfill a woman sexually.

Let’s imagine the reversed situation, in which the woman would systematically refuse penetration. She would only make do with masturbating her lover or give him fellatio. Or she would offer him instead of her vagina a dildo which looks like it or a pair of very realistic breasts so he can have fun with. How would the man feel?

Premature ejaculation in the relationship

In deed, the woman shows a lot of comprehension at the beginning of such a relationship. She must be then very in love with her partner.

But in time she might get tired of making love without getting any pleasure out of it. She even might start developing a strong feeling of hostility against her partner. Sexuality within the couple can then transform itself in an additional chore for her.

She can sometimes fake orgasm in order to please him or to avoid finishing him by hand. Honestly praising his quality as a lover is without reach for the woman - but most men will be blinded to much by their egos to realize this. But she will wind up in a dead end.

When she is tired by these games, will she be able to confess him that she has never felt anything extraordinary in his arms?

It was very rare in the past that a woman in this kind of situation could communicate her feelings to another person.

Information about premature ejaculation

It was also rare that she could get some serious information about premature ejaculation. In most of cases she would have to give up pleasure.

Nowadays she would read an article in the newspaper, an internet page, watch a TV show or listen to the radio so she can get some information about her situation.

But is this enough? Does this replace experience?

In fact, lacking it, the woman thinks often that she’s responsible when a couple situation doesn’t work out.

The real victims of premature ejaculation

The man gets some kind of satisfaction because he comes and he gets pleasure out of it. Of course one can say that this kind of pleasure is inevitably spoiled by shame and other feelings of this type. Besides, the pleasure the man feels after a short intercourse is very far from the pleasure he can feel after a long one.

But still he feels something we can call or relate to pleasure whereas the woman is most of the time dissatisfied.

Men often fail to realize this.

I hope this article is able to rise awareness to the problem of premature ejaculation.

Men should make it a priority for them and their partners to cure premature ejaculation. The information how to do so is out there.

Are you man enough to act on it?

Erectile Dysfunction is a form of sexual disorder in men that occurs when there is reduced blood flow or damage to penile nerves which make a man unable to maintain an erection sufficient enough for sexual activity.

Recent surveys shows that 1 in 3 men suffer from one form or the other of erectile dysfunction, therefore it could be said to be the most common sexual disorder afflicting men today. But amazingly, surveys also show that only 1 in 15 will seek help as most people find it difficult to talk about sex openly and admitting that there is a problem maintaining an erection is not what most men will discuss with their partners or even friends.

More common in older men, but it can occur at any age due to the fact that there are diverse reasons not age related. There is an increase in the number of men suffering from this condition as modern day living is very stressful and stress is one common cause..

Recognised known reasons for erectile dysfunction

The proper starting point to understanding the reasons is to first know what cause erection. The brain as usual is the normal starting point for our actions, the brain sends signals to penile nerves which in turn increase blood flow to the penis which make the tissue expand and harden.

It is clear that anything that interferes with the brain sending the signals, that is the nervous system or blood circulation is a potential cause of erectile dysfunction.

• Medication and Drugs – medicines used to treat various conditions like high blood pressure, diabetes, heart problems or anti depressants as well as alcohol and illicit drugs when taken over a period of time do damage the nervous and vascular systems.

• Psychological Reasons – Anxiety, Stress or Depression.

• Hormonal Imbalance

Relationship between Erectile Dysfunction, Impotence and Premature Ejaculation

While erectile dysfunction is the condition, impotence and premature ejaculation are symptoms of the condition.

Prognosis

Depending on the underlying cause and severity, some cases of erectile dysfunction may disappear without needing treatment or by just making simple lifestyle changes that tackles the cause, like dealing with stress, exercising or losing weight while some may need medication. It is relatively easy to get hold of genuine premature ejaculation treatment or impotence drug.

A good ponit to note is that most will respond to treatment without surgery. There is a wide range of options available but care must be taken to look into the side effects of any course of treatment and herbal impotence cures / natural remedies of erectile dysfunction should be looked into as they do not interfere with other treatments and tend to have no side effects.

A point to note is that erectile dysfunction is more common than most people believe and it is nothing to be embarrassed about so men should not shy away from seeking treatment, no point to continue to suffer in silence.